How should fat people deal with bullies

Use these 3 tips to expose bullying techniques


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of bullying, the more each individual comes under pressure from family circumstances, society, the financial system, etc. Overworked schoolchildren or overworked workers bully and cause serious psychological problems, including suicide, in the victims. With our 3 solution tips you can uncover the bullying techniques. But be careful: once you've unmasked the perpetrators, that might just be the tip of the iceberg. Nevertheless, bullying is no longer a trivial offense and has to be questioned consistently and professionally!

Bullying or speaking badly about others behind your back is nothing new. But if it goes too far and this degenerates into psychological terror, the bullied should do something about it.

In principle, anyone can become a victim or perpetrator, and the boundaries are often blurred. Anyone who is bullied, strikes back and acts in the same way as the bully has only changed sides. Most of the bullying victims are sensitive people who often do not know what to do. Due to the mental illness, employers have to report more sick leave. In the worst case scenario, the victims slide into a burnout syndrome and quit their jobs.

If there is a suspicion of being a victim of bullying, it is up to the victim, but also to everyone not involved in the bullying, to take the wind out of the sails of the perpetrator (s). You can now find out how:

There are 3 bullying techniques you should know about

To combat bullying, you need to understand the practices of bullying. Once the problem has been identified, the solution is not far away.

  • talk
  • Exclusion
  • job

1. Bullying Technique - Talk

One of the simplest bullying techniques is to talk badly about others. Whispering or giggling when the victim of bullying enters or leaves the room are the order of the day. For this purpose, clear looks or negative gestures are exchanged among the perpetrators. The victim is ridiculed or has to be joked about.

Rumors are spread and criticism is raised openly or behind closed doors. Blaming at work and grumbling about personal life are common practices. Religious, political or sexual attitudes are mocked and discriminated against. The victim is suspected of being mentally ill.

Possible solution: If you catch your work colleagues being humiliated several times, address the incidents concretely without becoming personal as well. Show superiority and put the perpetrators in their place. If you are unsuccessful, then team up with like-minded people, go to your supervisor or staff council. Advice from a psychologist is recommended. Do something about it early on, before it gets worse.

2. Bullying Technique - Exclusion

One of the worse forms of bullying is completely ignoring a person. Nobody speaks to the victim and nobody can be spoken to by the victim of bullying. The perpetrator or the perpetrators forbid others to maintain contact with the victim, to meet him or to sit next to him during the lunch break. Threats can arise if the victim defends himself and lodges a complaint in the executive suite.

Possible solution: Try to find out why this is and who exactly is behind it. If there was an incident that caused the perpetrator (s) to take these actions, investigate the reasons. Practice objective self-assessment, but not self-criticism (“It's my own fault!” Etc.).

Try to find someone who is on your side and talk to the culprit together. Ask what exactly caused the behavior. If none of this leads to the goal, seek professional advice.

3. Bullying Technique - Work

Newcomers, but also people who have been working in the company for a long time, can find that their work is less and less valued. The work done is increasingly criticized, personally insulting or wrongly judged. The supervisor assigns meaningless, self-defeating work, tasks that are far below the ability of the bullied.

Likewise, bosses can be bullied by the workforce by questioning their decisions and not really listening to this person. Ordered work is intentionally not done or only to a fraction.

Possible solution: Here, too, it is important to find out why. In order to solve a confused situation, everyone has to be interviewed together in order to initiate concrete steps to rectify the unfortunate circumstances. Perhaps there is someone you can trust who can take on a mediation role in the company. In such times of crisis it is valuable to proceed strategically, to acquire further social skills and thereby to strengthen oneself personally.

The 4 perpetrator profiles of bullying

Once you have unmasked the perpetrators of bullying, you should not act too quickly, but rather find out the motives why the person is bullying. This is not easy and often requires a professional approach. It may be advisable to seek help from outside. In the interests of the victim of bullying, protective measures must be initiated immediately. In general, there are four motives that drive the bullying offender:

  • Hunger for power
  • envy
  • anxietyfrom failure
  • Lust, to wipe out the other

The ones out Hunger for power bullying, are often very skillful, so that their intentions are not immediately apparent. You surround yourself with people who adapt and hardly reflect and above all blow the same horn. Power-hungry people tend to be unscrupulous and aim to finish off the supposed competition. The victim is pecked at (pecking order) and the mob is happy about it.

Someone who's out envy bullies, has very low self-esteem. The victim is bullied because the perpetrator actually wants to have their good qualities. Whether it is a question of specialist knowledge, personal strengths, etc., varies from case to case. There is more and more devaluation of the bullied in order to be better off in the community.

The anxietymobber is very badly mentally impaired and sees his whole situation extremely one-sided. It can also be that he was bullied himself beforehand and for fear of being the victim again, he becomes a bully himself. He feels like a victim, not a perpetrator, which is why all-round blows are increasing.

who Lust bullying, bullying others and telling lies, has a rather cold feeling and will hardly stop until his plan works. Most of the time this has to do with greed for power as well.

 

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