How will you realize your life

Self-realization - How to go your own way

Self-realization - a dream of many young people! After all, it is a real luxury to take your life into your own hands and to be able to shape everyday life yourself. But self-realization is not always worth striving for, it requires responsibility and courage. In this magazine article you will find out what digital nomads, influencers and survivors have to do with self-realization and how you can realize yourself even in normality - far away from your Instagram feed!

Self-realization is the trend

“The goal of life is self-realization. Our purpose is to fully develop our own being. "

Oscar Wilde

Let's start at the beginning. What does self-realization mean, what does the term stand for? What is certain is that it is a very flexible term. Because somehow everyone seems to understand something different by self-actualization. And that's no wonder! Duden online defines self-realization as "developing one's own personality through the realization of possibilities that are inherent in someone". And these possibilities look very different.

We owe the fact that self-realization is so popular, among other things, to said digital nomads who work independently of time and place. Due to their high flexibility, they can organize their lives more freely than permanent employees who are present in the office. Even successful influencers who report beautiful things day in and day out - be it fashion, travel or technology - and exemplify this all over the world on social networks, increase the individual's desire to realize themselves.

Compared to the varied influencer life, your regular office routine quickly seems pretty boring to you. And suddenly you develop the need to focus on self-actualization as well. That's great! However, you should keep in mind that self-realization is only one hundred percent possible for at least us.

Be realistic!

"Nobody can contribute to the best of humanity who does not make of himself what can and should become of him."

Johann Gottfried von Herder

Of course, self-actualization is not a privilege reserved only for the beautiful and the rich. But a little more reality might not hurt one or the other. It doesn't always have to be higher, faster, further! Nor does it have to necessarily mean leading a life in the fast lane, trundling through world history and preferring artistic activities to more secure components such as permanent employment and rental agreements.

Sayings like "Live your dreams" contain a lot of truth, but also the danger of losing sight of what is really important. For example, let's look at Maslow's hierarchy of needs, which you're guaranteed to have heard of. This divides human needs into different levels. While psychological needs (eat, drink, sleep) and security needs (live, work, shelter) form the basis, self-actualization is at the top. In between there are also social needs (family, friendship, group membership) and individual needs (recognition, praise, status).

You see: Self-realization is important for a contented life, but basic certainties are even more relevant. That is why it is important to find a healthy balance between necessary activities and moments of personal fulfillment - unless you want to become an influencer. Then of course both are possible. But now please again: irony off, reality on!

Maslow's hierarchy of needs

"You redesign the world by designing yourself."

Julius Lanbehn

At this point, let's take a closer look at Maslow's hierarchy of needs. Because this is an important component when it comes to self-realization.

The model developed by the American psychologist Abraham Maslow comprises a total of 5 levels of human needs

The 5 levels of Maslow's hierarchy of needs

Psychological level

This means all basic needs that are necessary to sustain life. These include, for example, needs such as breathing, food, homeostasis (e.g. weather protection) and reproduction.

According to Maslow, these needs form the basis and thus the first level of the pyramid. Only when this foundation is in place can the path to self-realization be followed.

Security needs

As soon as existential needs are guaranteed, man begins to yearn for needs of security. These include, for example, needs such as basic material security, physical and mental health or the exercise of an activity that can finance life.

In this phase, according to Maslow, the main goal of humans is to create stability and order. If these are not given, the individual is not allowed to go further up the pyramid.

Social needs

If stability is guaranteed (e.g. through a secure job), the urge to develop social relationships increases. The urge for community takes place in different circles.

Including family, friends, partnership or by joining clubs. The importance of sociability is becoming more and more important.

At the same time, the urge for social recognition increases. You want to be part of a community and continue to rise within it.

Individual needs

If the social need is satisfied, the individual needs increasingly come to the fore. Maslow differentiates between two types of individual needs.

In his opinion, on the one hand, people strive for mental and physical strength, independence and success. On the other hand, he is increasingly looking for confirmation in the outside world. Including from work colleagues, in the sports club, from friends or from everyone with whom he interacts in any way.


If the individual needs are also satisfied, nothing stands in the way of self-realization, according to Maslow. Basically, this happens completely automatically.

Because the satisfaction of the points mentioned above will lead to the awakening of unrest and dissatisfaction in people. Suddenly the respective person wants to give his life a deeper meaning, a deeper meaning.

Each person defines for himself how exactly this works. Some want to start their own business. Others, on the other hand, express themselves creatively and, for example, write a book that changes the world. Others, in turn, see their role in politics and want to influence the world in this way.

What need do you have What does self-actualization mean to you? Can you already answer this question clearly for yourself?

How to integrate self-actualization into everyday life

As we now know, the goal of most people is not to wrap their whole life in self-actualization. That sounds worth striving for, but in practice it is difficult to achieve. After all, we have obligations: the rent needs to be paid and the child needs to be fed. And then there are still a few installments of your student loan outstanding. Does it sound familiar to you? In such a case, there is not much room for self-actualization. Or is it?

Why, surely! Because even if you do a job 40 hours a week that may not always be exciting or challenging, but offers you financial security, then you still have enough time to realize yourself after work. Self-realization does not always have to take place on the professional level. You can also develop in private life.

This works, for example, by spending a lot of time with friends and family or a loved hobby. You can do a sport that fulfills you, meditate, draw, paint, learn new languages, or invent something. If you have the opportunity to travel to distant countries, to make yourself financially independent or to keep your ecological footprint in this world as small as possible, that's great. We just want to show you that even small opportunities in everyday life can be used for self-realization. In other words, just because you are not completely turning your life upside down does not mean that you are not realizing yourself. As I said: Self-realization is a flexible term and looks different for everyone.

How to go your own way

“We model our body according to expectations and emphasize that this is our freedom. Because we do not recognize that we are bowing to conformity pressure, we believe that we are particularly individual. "

Giovanni Mail

In addition, self-actualization is an ongoing process. Unlike a project, it rarely has a specific date, a beginning or an end - instead, at best, it accompanies you for a lifetime. But let's assume that your life has been controlled by others so far and you have never really listened to your heart. You did what everyone is doing, had little free time and now - in your free time or professionally - you finally want to realize yourself. The following three steps will show you how to get started. We wish you lots of fun!

What do you really want?

Find out what you really want and what drives you! What motivates you What makes your heart pound and your eyes shine? By becoming clear about your wishes, goals and potential, you will find out how and with what you can realize yourself.

Strengthen your self-esteem

Self-realization also requires a good portion of self-confidence. Because only when you believe in yourself and your self-esteem is strengthened, you can muster enough strength to walk the path of self-realization. A strong self-confidence also gives you enough strength to master challenges on your way to your goal.

Take responsibility

One thing is fact: you are the designer of your life. And only you alone. You have to take responsibility for that. Because if, for example, you always look to others to blame, then you will also pass the responsibility on to these people.

Even if it sounds harsh, at the end of the day you are responsible for yourself. The circumstances in which you live are merely guard rails. However, it is you who decide in which direction your life can go.

And for this reason, it's up to you whether you take the responsibility to live your life on your own terms or just bury your head in the sand when things get tough.

Don't put off your goals

"Tomorrow I'll quit smoking." "I'll be going back to the gym from next week." "And I'll definitely get my tax return ready tomorrow."

Do such statements sound familiar to you? We humans often tend to put off our goals. The problem: with every day we postpone our goals, we take a step away from our self-actualization.

For this reason, it is extremely important to always keep your goals in focus and to move towards them. Otherwise, you run the risk of spinning on the spot, which in turn leads to quite a bit of frustration and disappointment.

Expect criticism

Expect criticism! There will always be someone who has other plans for you or who would like to tell you what to do - for example your parents, who would rather see you studying law than studying philosophy. Or your friends who would rather go on tour with you instead of knowing that you are yours

Spending weekends playing guitar. Let them know why you prefer certain things to others, and don't let criticism stop you.

Face your fears

On the path to self-actualization, you will encounter many challenges that scare you. That is normal. Because self-actualization means leaving your comfort zone.

And fear lies outside of the comfort zone. However, once the fear is overcome, the change occurs. And every time you conquer fear, you get one step closer to your goal, self-realization.

Do not give up

Do not give up! Self-actualization doesn't happen overnight. Setbacks are just as much a part of it as successes. Always remember why you chose certain things: because they make you happy, enrich you, and give you a sense of freedom. Stay true to yourself - this is the best way to realize yourself!

Finally, we have prepared a really great video for you. In the video, Dr. Stefan Frädrich Alexander Hartmann on the subject of self-realization.

Conclusion: Self-actualization is the key to a free and happy life

"Recognize yourself."

Inscription at the Temple of Apollo in Delphi

In this article you learned what self-realization is, how you can achieve it, and the importance of Maslow's hierarchy of needs in this context.

Now it's up to you! You decide whether you take your life into your own hands and take responsibility for becoming the person you always wanted to be.

We wish you a lot of fun on this exciting journey that now lies ahead of you. Finally, we can promise you one thing guaranteed: It is worth taking the path of self-realization.

As soon as you have walked this path, a life full of freedom, happiness and deep contentment awaits you. And as soon as you have walked this path, you will look back into the past and be able to say to yourself: Yes, I made it. I went my way of self-realization.