What is the difference between humility and self confidence

Self-confidence

Self-confidence is the trust in one's own strengths and abilities and is connected with self-love and self-respect. Those who have self-confidence can deal better with their own mistakes, failures and strokes of fate. The trust in oneself is partly innate (genetic or from previous lives) and is decisively shaped by upbringing, parents and school as well as experiences in childhood.

Everyone can work to increase their self-confidence. It can be developed through self-knowledge as well as through trust in God: If you have the conviction that God stands behind everything, then you can also assume that God only gives you the tasks that you can do. This is how self-confidence, trust in fate and trust in God are interrelated. In yoga, self-confidence can be developed through meditation, yoga exercises and deep relaxation.

Confidence Overview

  • Any quality, any virtue that is exaggerated becomes a vice, an unhelpful quality. Excessive self-confidence can degenerate into pride, arrogance, conceit, vanity or resistance to criticism. Therefore, self-confidence as an opposite pole needs the cultivation of trust in God, devotion, humility and the ability to criticize.

Lack of self-confidence

In many cases, a lack of self-confidence is trained, even if a certain basic disposition can be a souvenir from previous lives. Perhaps we had experiences in our childhood that made us feel that we are not enough, that something is wrong with us. As a rule, the upbringing or lack of appreciation of the parents played a major role. Maybe we were bullied at school too. As a result, we have unconsciously trained an inner critic who constantly attacks our self-esteem and persuades us to be "small". This can lead to the fact that we let our self-worth be determined by others - we become dependent on the confirmation of others.

Many people lack self-confidence. They have energy, skills and capabilities, but they lack confidence in their strength and possibilities. This is a weakness that causes adversity in everything. As soon as this negative thought arises, the person becomes nervous and irritated. Confidence is a force. It develops the will. You should always think, "I will succeed. I am very sure of my success." You should stop indulging in this feeling of lack of confidence. Trust is half the battle. You need to know exactly your worth. A person with self-confidence is successful in all of his endeavors and endeavors.

Swami Sivananda on self-confidence

The Indian yoga master Swami Sivananda wrote in his book "Success in Life and Self-Realization" in the 1940s on the subject of self-confidence:

Confidence is an essential virtue. Self-confidence gives inner strength and enables you to achieve material and spiritual success. Most people lean against others because they have lost their confidence. The habits of well-being have greatly weakened people. Everyone can be served and loses the physical vitality that people in earlier times possessed because they did most of the work themselves.

Today people depend on others for many things. He has little idea of ​​the great reserves of strength and knowledge in him. His thoughts go out and there is no inner life. The householder is waiting for a magic pill, which the sannyasin gives him for his spiritual advancement. Do spiritual exercises yourself. Put your feet on the spiritual ladder. Everyone is their own Redeemer and Savior. Make a note of this. No one can save another. Stand on your own feet full of self-confidence and become successful in this world and on the spiritual path. Tap into the source with confidence and self-confidence and draw strength from it with your eyes closed.

Self-confidence

Self-control creates self-confidence

- Section from the book: Yoga of the Three Energies by James Swartz -

The pursuit of material ends leads to binding vāsanās, who mercilessly expose the jīva to his own fears and desires. This creates internal conflicts and gnaws at his self-esteem. Low self-esteem is so common these days that it has become a topic of conversation aimed at evoking pity. It is one thing to understand your problems and quite another to do something about it.

You may temporarily feel good when you get what you want, but good feelings don't automatically lead to self-esteem.

Self-esteem is a lasting sense of self-worth that develops when you do what is right for your own growth. This will not happen unless one has a high regard for self-control. Every time you oppose yourself with the support of self-awareness, a useless fear or a useless desire and reject them, your sense of self-love grows.

Confidence in Yoga

In order to develop self-confidence, any of the six yoga paths can help you:

Self-confidence in Raja Yoga

Raja Yoga is psychological yoga. Here are some recommendations from Raja Yoga on the subject of self-confidence:

Every inclination in you, every emotion, is originally meaningful. Fear, anger, self-doubt etc. also have their original meaning. It is important to learn to appreciate and control the various parts in you. Here, self-confidence is a form of self-acceptance as the basis for personal development. Raja Yoga in particular, the royal yoga, recommends that you learn to see yourself as a king, as the ruler of all your inner parts. A good king treats everyone in his kingdom with love and skill, ensures that they all have what they need, and that they develop well. So you can establish yourself as a Raja, as a king. You can view the various proportions, skills, and inclinations as well-meaning employees. It is important to see these inner parts, to appreciate them, to love them, as well as not to make yourself dependent and not to let one aspect dominate you.

Confidence in Karma Yoga

Karma Yoga is the yoga of skillful action, the yoga of selfless service, of unhindered action. Here are some statements from Karma Yoga on the subject of self-confidence:

Karma, the fate, sends you exactly the tasks for which you have the right skills. If there was someone else who would be better at your task at hand, then fate would have entrusted that task to someone else. You are equipped with your weaknesses and strengths in such a way that you can have the right experiences. Here self-confidence is connected with trust in fate and in God. Here, too, it is the basis for personal development.

Confidence in Jnana Yoga

Jnana Yoga is the yoga of knowledge, the yoga of unity (Advaita). Recommendations on the subject of self-confidence can also be derived from this yoga path:

From the standpoint of Advaita Vedanta, everything is of divine origin (Sarvam Khalvidam Brahma). Everything is Brahman, you too are Brahman and therefore part of a higher reality. Through the path of cognition and knowledge you can become aware of the oneness with everything as well as your higher nature and can thereby gradually develop trust in yourself.

Swami Sivananda writes about this in his book "Yoga in Daily Life": You are not the little self, Mr. Fritz Müller. You're not Miss Grete Meier either. And you are not Mr. Karl Schmidt and you are not Mrs. Bergmann. Try to get rid of this physical notion. Try to erase this gender concept. You are neither male nor female. Transform the sexual or procreative power into spiritual energy or OjasShakti through pious thoughts, continuous intercourse with saints (Satsanga), continuous Atma exploration, study of Atma-Jnana books, spiritual training and meditation. Always think, "I am. I exist. I am a center of consciousness in the ocean of life. I am a center of thought, influence, and power."

Courage, strength, strength, wisdom and joy are your divine inheritance, your birthright from the absolute. Develop your willpower. Will has already created giants of the intellect and spirit. You are as much as any other person. You came from the same source. You are an expression of the same one life, the one being, the one being (Sat), the one reality. You are the real "I", the real Atma. You are immortal You can hardly be destroyed. You are invincible. You cannot be destroyed in any way. Belief in this sense world alone means death. Your very nature is absolute reality (Satchidananda), immortality and bliss. He who sees the self does not see death, disease, or worry. The viewer sees everything as his own self. He pervades everything. He knows everything. He is all powerful.

Confidence in Bhakti Yoga

Bhakti Yoga is the yoga of love for God. You will also find help and tips on the subject of self-confidence in this yoga path:

From the standpoint of Bhakti Yoga, everything is a creation of God. The world, nature, your own body, your own personality, your own abilities. If God had wanted you to be someone else or had different abilities, then He would have given you them. Here self-confidence is an expression of trust in God. By cultivating your devotion to God, for example by chanting mantras, you can recognize the divine in yourself and thereby develop self-confidence.

Confidence and Kundalini Yoga

Kundalini Yoga is the yoga of energy. From the standpoint of Kundalini Yoga, you have unimagined abilities and possibilities within you. The Shakti, the cosmic energy, is within you. Instead of getting angry about your inadequacy, have faith in your abilities, trust in the Divine Mother within you, who in due course will manifest in a way that is good for you, your fellow human beings and everyone involved. Practice spiritual practices, activate your life energy, your prana. Practice positive affirmations. Pray The cosmic energy, the Kundalini, will awaken in you in due course and work more and more in you and through you. Here, too, self-confidence is trust in God and in the cosmic energy, in a higher intelligence that is also effective in you.

Confidence and Hatha Yoga

Hatha yoga is the yoga of physical exercise. Hatha yoga is the easiest and most powerful yoga to develop self-confidence. Because in this physical world a person first perceives his body. First of all, self-confidence is confidence in one's own body. In Hatha Yoga you learn to relax, to let go, to feel your body, to experience your body as a source of pleasant sensations. You learn to feel your body with its muscles, joints and organs. As you progress, you gain confidence in your body and your abilities. Through pranayama you experience the rhythm of life, you experience the prana, the life force behind everything. This will give you a deep respect for what is inside you. This deep respect creates self-confidence, you feel the deep intelligence in your body - and learn to let it work in you. In the deep relaxation you let go of everything and you can feel the unity with everything again.

Swami Sivananda writes about this in his book "Yoga in Daily Life": Pay attention to the wonderful creation and function of the internal body mechanisms. How admirable is this machinery. Can a scientist create an atom, a single cell, or an organ in the body? With folded hands, bow to the Creator of all these wonderful bodily functions. Repeat "OmRam". Step into the silence. Meditate. The whole mystery of creation is revealed to you by his grace.

A wonderful yoga asana for developing self-confidence and balance is the Scorpio, Vrishikasana. You can find instructions in the following video:

Exercises that stimulate the Svadhisthana and the Manipura Chakra, which stand for self-confidence, are also particularly helpful. You can find an overview under the keyword Chakra.

Lack of self-confidence isn't a bad thing either

See a lack of self-confidence positively. Because there's no point telling you, "I need to be more confident". In doing so, you judge yourself and fight against yourself. Interpret the lack of self-confidence positively: It helps you to develop further and not to get stuck. He is also a source of humility. If you notice that you lack self-confidence, rejoice: You have a good basis for your spiritual development. By loving your lack of confidence, you will develop confidence in yourself faster than by fighting the lack and putting yourself down. Practice Hatha Yoga and the other yoga paths - you will soon notice how your self-confidence grows without slipping into egoism and vanity.

The seven main chakras of the human body

Confidence and Chakras

A lack of self-confidence can also indicate an imbalance in the chakras. Certain meditations, asanas or pranayama can help you to harmonize the chakras. You can find useful information on this on the main Chakra pages.

The chakras should always be harmonized together, but when it comes to self-confidence, working with Svadhisthana Chakra and Manipura Chakra is particularly useful. When you bring Svadhisthana into balance, you come back into the "flow" and can develop devotion, trust and love for God. Related to Svadhisthana is also the Vishuddhi Chakra. Therefore, when you harmonize Svadhisthana, your throat chakra is also stimulated. You can explain and express yourself better, and this also gives you more self-confidence.

The Manipura Chakra, also called the solar plexus, is the seat of fire energy, Agni, and stands for courage, willpower, assertiveness, charisma. It is viewed as the center of self-awareness and self-confidence. If you have problems trusting yourself, you should definitely try to activate and harmonize Manipura more. When more fire is awakened as a result, you also radiate more prana. With an awakened Manipura Chakra, you no longer make your self-worth dependent on others.

Confidence as a helpful virtue

From a lecture by Sukadev Bretz

Self-confidence consists of two words, trust and self. On the one hand, self-confidence means that you have confidence in your own self. But self-confidence also comes from the fact that you have self-confidence in God, in fate, in other people, in your destiny.

But first of all it is particularly important to have self-confidence, trust in yourself. What can be the basis for self-confidence? First of all, from a psychological point of view, it means when people grow up in a reasonably protected environment, when they know, "My mother and my father were there for me", when life was more or less regulated in the first years of childhood, when the children felt protected then a basic trust arises. And when they were regularly praised, got attention, they got the feeling that they are somehow important and that creates self-confidence.

And there are good reasons to assume that children who have a reasonably sheltered environment actually grow up with more confidence and self-confidence. It seems that the very specific parenting style is less important, but that children feel that they are protected and they can trust their parents, they are loved by their parents or whoever their caregiver is.

They don't always have to be parents, but they are loved, they are accepted, they are valued, their needs are catered for, and that is where trust and self-confidence arise. Which means, assuming you are a parent, then you can approach your upbringing with a little serenity, it is only important to give the children a certain trusting environment.

But what do you do if you may not have that confidence now, if you are not someone who kept getting recognition as a child, got respect when your childhood wasn't like that? You can still build confidence and there are different elements to that.

Of course, I am a yoga teacher, a spiritual teacher, the deepest foundation of self-confidence is confidence: "I am the immortal self." In yoga we say: "You are not the body, you are not the psyche, in you is the divine core. You are infinite consciousness, connected with everything, you can feel it." When you go into meditation, maybe not every time, but relatively often, you feel that there is something inside you, something deep, something great.

And this depth, this great thing, that is you. And in this self you can have confidence.The body may sometimes have problems, it may get sick, simple colds and more difficult things, your psyche may have ups or downs, but you can have self-confidence, deep within you is the highest self.

The second basis of self-confidence is ultimately connected with trust in God, trust in karma, one could also say. And there is trust, that is now the law of karma, you only get the tasks you are up to and you have exactly the right qualities to do what is right.

You don't have to be afraid that you are in situations for which you have no strength. The world is not a perfect place in an external way, and so you do not have to be perfect in an external way. You have the right qualities, no matter what task you are brought into, you have exactly what it takes to handle that task.

It may go wrong, no problem, then it should go wrong and you had the right trait to let it go badly wrong. Self-confidence means: "I'll do it as well as I can, to the best of my knowledge and belief, and then the right thing will come out of it." In a way, it's a fate trust that becomes self-confidence.

Another basis for self-confidence is a knowledge of your own abilities and a realistic assessment of your own abilities. Of course, on a relative level, you can do some things, and you may not be able to do some things. Assuming that you have hardly run so far, then it makes no sense to register for the marathon there, but maybe a four-kilometer run is possible, there are these company runs and maybe you want to run there.

Or suppose you've never spoken to a larger audience before, it may not be appropriate for you to get in touch right now. Confidence also means knowing your limits and gradually expanding them. But when karma throws you into situations you haven't seen before, self-confidence also means saying, "I'll have the right qualities and skills to do what is needed."

Think a little more for yourself, what can you do to have more confidence? By the way, a very simple way to gain more confidence is to practice asanas. If you do your yoga exercises every day, you will feel your body, you will feel it and you will get more energy, you will get more courage and therefore more self-confidence.

You can also get more self-confidence by doing pranayama, breathing exercises. With breathing exercises you get more energy, more energy also means more self-confidence. You can also gain confidence by meditating regularly. Meditation leads to the fact that you get access to the depths of your being, you get access to what is very deep within you.

When you feel what is very deep within you, there is also self-confidence, trust in God, trust in fate. Think for yourself what self-confidence means to you and how you can perhaps cultivate a little more self-confidence. Self-confidence can also mean following your intuition from time to time and trusting that your gut feeling and your heart are already telling you the right thing. Sometimes it takes courage, it develops self-confidence.

More self-confidence building techniques

Confidence can be seen as a virtue, a positive quality. Maybe you want to increase your confidence in yourself. Here are a few tips:

  • Make a resolution to cultivate this quality of self-confidence for a week. You may not be able to cultivate all of the good qualities at once. But it is possible to make a virtue or quality strong in a week or a month.
  • Make up your mind, "For the next week, I want to let the virtue, cultivating self-confidence grow, grow stronger. I look forward to being a more confident person in a week."
  • Make a goal of doing at least one action each day that expresses confidence. Do something every day that you would not otherwise do but that expresses that virtue. Confidence grows with courage.
  • When you wake up in the morning, say an affirmation such as, "I'm developing confidence."
  • During the day, repeat an autosuggestion over and over again, affirmation such as: I am full of self-confidence ".

Classic autosuggestion for self-confidence

  • I am full of confidence.

In yoga one likes to combine affirmations with a mantra - this makes the affirmation stronger:

  • I am OmOmOm full of confidence.

Developmental affirmation for self-confidence

Some people feel hypocritical or hypocritical when they say, "I am full of confidence." In this case, a developmental affirmation will help:

  • I develop self-confidence.
  • I get confident.
  • By the grace of God, I am becoming more confident every day.

Thank you affirmation for self-confidence

  • I thank you for having more confidence every day.

Miracle affirmations self-confidence

You can also try the following affirmations:

  • So far, I'm not very confident about myself. And that is quite understandable, I have good reasons for it. But soon I will develop self-confidence. Every day this virtue will grow stronger in me.
  • I look forward to being full of confidence soon.

Prayer for Confidence

Prayer is also a powerful means of cultivating a virtue. Here are a few ways you can pray for confidence:

  • Dear God, please give me more confidence.
  • Oh god i adore you I ask you that I will become a person full of self-confidence.
  • Dear Divine Mother, I thank you. I thank you for expressing the virtue of self-confidence more and more every day.

What should i do?

You can also ask yourself:

  • What would I have to do to develop confidence?
  • Assuming I had confidence, how would that make itself felt? What would have changed? How would i feel How would i think How would i act As a confident person, how would I react, communicate with others?

Lecture recording on self-confidence

Here you can listen to a lecture by Sukadev Bretz, founder of Yoga Vidya. This talk is the audio version of a video on self-confidence, part of the Yoga Vidya Multimedia Lexicon of Virtues.

Develop Confidence - Develop Confidence Part 3

Develop confidence in yourself - you have all the skills you need to get the tasks done that you have to do. You can't really go wrong as long as you make ethical choices. And God works even through your mistakes. These are some of the theses that Sukadev puts forward in this third part of the podcast series "Developing Trust", recorded from a workshop of the same name at Yoga Vidya Cologne.

Deep down, everyone means well ... Developing Trust Part 4

Everyone means well, deep down. People do what they do to give and receive love. You don't have really good or bad qualities yourself either. Rather, you have well-meaning parts in you - which are sometimes not positive in their effects. You can learn to see the good in others. You can learn to appreciate all parts of you - and then to live skillfully and compassionately. From this deep trust you can meet yourself and others in love. These are some of the theses that Sukadev Bretz explains in this 4th part of the lecture series "Developing Trust", recorded from a workshop at Yoga Vidya Cologne.

Deep relaxation for confidence - mp3 instructions

A relaxation technique for inner calm, trust and self-confidence. Yoga deep relaxation with affirmations - an easy to learn and practice form of mental training. Sukadev guides you through various steps of deep relaxation. He will suggest auto-suggestions to you. These relaxation instructions are suitable for beginners and advanced users. This is a recording from a yoga and meditation seminar at Yoga Vidya Bad Meinberg on the topic of "developing trust". You also hear the noises of the participants - it is "live" - ​​and therefore has a special power.

72 Self-Confidence and Humility - Devotion and Wisdom - Stories by Hanuman mp3 lecture

Confidence and humility, devotion and wisdom. These characteristics need to be developed. In this lecture, Sukadev uses stories about Hanuman to show how important spiritual principles can be lived in everyday life. Recording of a live lecture the evening before by Hanuman Jayanthi in Haus Yoga Vidya Bad Meinberg.

Manipura Chakra Pendulum Meditation

A meditation technique to activate your Manipura Chakra. Very effective for strengthening the inner fire element and thus for courage, willpower and enthusiasm. If you would like to learn or know more about meditation, you can find more information on our Yoga Vidya website on the subject of meditation.

Have faith and be wise Bh.G. IX 19th

One of the themes that comes up over and over again in the Bhagavad Gita is trust. Based on the 19th verse of the 11th chapter of the Bhagavad Gita, Sukadev gives you tips on how to develop trust. You come to your basic trust through trust in God, self-trust, trust in fate. Short lecture on the Bhagavad Gita by Sukadev by Yoga Vidya Bad Meinberg.

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